Have you ever wondered what to do when you feel stuck and misunderstood at the same time?
I know I have.
In fact, it’s hard to remember a week when I haven’t thought about this at least once.
After all, when we talk about persevering through our purpose, no doubt, the topic holds perpetual relevance.
But for the bivocational who feel their life is like the Truman Show & Groundhog’s Day had a baby, sometimes truisms aren’t enough.
Not to sound blasphemous or anything. I just know for people like me, it helps when I’m able to voice the struggles that come with the territory…and partner with people in troubleshooting their quandaries.
Thus, if any of you can relate…let’s just say you’ve come to the right place.
Before His Girl Fryday launched, Lyssah and I did some research on bivocational issues and noted plenty of materials concerning the benefits of “bivocational ministry”; however, when it came to the challenges, we noticed a startling lack of content.
So in the days following, we asked ourselves some hard-hitting questions…
…like what makes the “cost of bivocational ministry” a taboo topic…
…and why do some avoid confronting the truth when it seems to lack appeal?
After taking time to drill down, we realized:
- The #1 thing bivocational ministers crave above all else is encouragement; hence, why so much content caters to this particular need.
- Bivocational ministers in hope of inspiration often stiff-arm opportunities capable of better equipping them for adversity.
Granted, it’s completely human to want edification; however, as bivocational ambassadors, we must realize we’re not called to manufacture floatation devices when storms come. ‘Cause truth is, if we want to walk in true freedom, we must get real about our struggles as opposed to tuning them out*.
And hear me…I get how easy it can be to rely on personal strength and distractions when we sense hopelessness knocking on our door.
Yet, it’s at that point we must embrace what we were ultimately designed for (i.e. accountability, intimacy, endurance, community, etc) to see and live the whole truth as God intended.
So while I’m all about encouragement and inspiration, I’m also aware we must be fearless in addressing the deep, dark closet spaces of our hearts.
Thus, in the coming weeks, we’re going to “de-taboo” some of life’s most complex questions…like…
- What do you do when you feel like you’re not making a difference?
- How do you respond when your authorities persecute you?
- How do you cope with the fears of rejection and mediocrity?
- What do you do when you feel old rejections are holding you back?
- What do you do when you’re in the right place, but can’t connect relationally?
- What do you do when you doubt God’s plan…and all you want to do is give up?
Of course, these questions only represent the tip of the iceberg.
Yet, as we tackle these issues, it’s my hope we not only discover the beauty in being bivocational but also the power that comes when we embrace the cost.
So in closing, I encourage you to ask yourself: Are you willing to let go of anything not God for the sake of trusting Him every step of the way?
In the meantime, stay tuned for a new post next week when we address our first question: What do you do when you feel like you’re not making a difference?
Fighting the good fight,
*Trust me…I’ve tried self-medicating many different ways. It never works.
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