Meet Pastor Wes. Pastor Wes is the children’s pastor at Your Community Church. He shepherds the K-6th grade population, assists the youth pastor with special events, and occasionally leads worship for various small group functions.
Without question, Pastor Wes loves his role and pursues it with steadfast devotion.
Yet, despite his contagious passion, Pastor Wes carries the unique distinction of not only being a BPK (i.e. bivocational pastor’s kid), but the son of the senior pastor as well.
In light of this, Pastor Wes often feels he doesn’t measure up, especially with respect to his dad. In addition, he feels overlooked, burdened by the weight of other people’s expectations, and discouraged by an increasing lack of edification.
Furthermore, Wes finds it hard to connect to his peers and other staff due, in part, to “last name association” with the senior pastor. Some church congregants even go as far to criticize Wes for his father’s actions, while others intentionally ignore him as a passive means to avoid confrontation.
However, none of this is new to Wes, having grown up with the PK label his entire life. Internally calloused yet perseverant, Wes questions his path as one regularly torn between home church allegiance and his dream to escape the shallow stereotypes of his surroundings.
With a limited church salary, Wes supports his family by working part-time as a barista and an online tutor/teacher at a local homeschool tutorial. When he’s not ministering to young people, Wes enjoys spending time with his wife and dog, running insanely long distances to stay in shape, and playing soccer at a local recreational league.
- The PK label – often feels neglected, judged or both.
- Not given opportunities to shine due to senior pastor’s fear of showing favoritism.
- Lack of encouragement and communication with other staff assuming he gets enough of this from his family.
- Lack of connectedness with the rest of the body.
- Doesn’t feel grace to grow.
- Often feels invisible.
- Finds strength in overcoming on a daily basis.
- Is driven to depend on God for identity and purpose.
- Is gifted in helping others struggling in the same boat.
- Character constantly refined by “in church” challenges.
The challenge is real…and so are the opportunities. Do you fit into this profile? What are some other challenges or opportunities you have encountered? Share in the comments below.
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